As for Me and My House, We Will Serve Ourselves

I am well-read on assorted spiritual opinions and sacred texts, the consumption of which I believe to be as crucial as partaking in a wide variety of foods, or listening to a broad catalog of music, or any number of things that enrich life’s journey with diversity.

We are all beholden to our personal truths.

beautiful art doesn't care what you believe. it doesn't even care if you believe it's beautiful.

beautiful art doesn’t care what you believe. it doesn’t even care if you believe it’s beautiful.

When I started this blog, I wrote a 26 Random Things About Me post, wherein I included that I’m a Unitarian.
For a while now, we’ve been attending services at the Unitarian church I attended long ago, and it’s been wonderful.
Every time I go, I can’t help but marvel that I’m in the right place, “Where reason and religion merge.”

flaming chalice

flaming chalice

I don’t want this blog to be about Unitarianism, but I’ll give you a few reasons I love it. It’s an accepting community. It doesn’t discriminate against race or color, sexual orientation or gender identity. Every version of humanity is welcome and valued. Seeking truth is encouraged, which means it promotes education. There’s a respect for all walks of life, all spiritual searches and experiences.
It’s not a place you put on your Sunday best and pretend to be the holiest person in the room. There’s much more to Unitarianism, and if you wish to learn about it, or find yourself screaming, “SIGN ME UP!” you can read about it at your leisure here.

I was led to this decision, to be a church-goer, to give up lazy Sundays, by one important moment.
Sassy, who was feeling rather blonde at that moment, said, in front of MIL, that she feels better about going to the Unitarian church because they don’t think you can only be a Christian or an atheist, like there are only two things to be.
MIL then said, “There are only two gods to serve, one is Jesus and the other is Satan.”
After I picked my jaw up from the floor, I had to stop her, “So you think there’s no room for any other faith?” I asked. She did not.

Remind them that their precious New Testament in their beloved book of My God is the Only God, clearly states that one hundred forty-four thousand from the twelve tribes of Israel are definitely going to heaven, as I’ve heard it preached from the very pulpit they subscribe to.
(Never you mind the assorted non-Jesuit meanings behind the concept of 144,000 or the fact that many Christian writers interpret that to mean the Jews will come to Christ, because you know, as The Mister says, that book is not literal unless it suits you, and it’s open to interpretation whenever convenient to one’s own personal feelings.) I don’t even believe in Heaven, despite popular books telling me it’s For Real.


After that moment of bad chi all up in my entryway, my conscience told me I had to commit myself to being a regular church-goer. I decided the children would benefit from a community of like-minded people, such as one finds at our church. I feel like my children need a kinda vaccination against thoughts of spiritual exclusion.

Besides, MIL is always goin on about some verse from Proverbs, (I guess people had some good ideas even before Jesus.) “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”

Y’all know how I live to make her happy.


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28 Responses to As for Me and My House, We Will Serve Ourselves

  1. eclecticalli says:

    I was pretty much raised UU, went to seminary thinking I’d become a UU minister but… it isn’t the right path for me at the moment. I’ve actually been exploring some other, more Christian, denominations lately but I know that, wherever I land what I learned growing up UU is going to continue to be a huge influence. The fact that I am supposed to question those in authority, or those who claim authority for themselves, or those who tell me WHAT I should believe, is a huge part of my life philosophy.
    When folks start getting into “literal” biblical interpretation it just floors me… especially since a lot of what they are talking about “literally” was never meant to be taken literally (don’t many of Jesus’ parables clearly indicate that the story is not the point, but that it’s something different?), is contradicted in the same book (or, sometimes, the same chapter or.. even… verse — Noah’s story is woven together by a number of tales, for instance, so you get a few contradictory points about how long that flood lasted).
    Okay, yeah, I’ll stop now… good for you to commit to a regular church-attendance plan.. they may hate it when they reach their teens (or they may love it, who knows) but your kids will benefit greatly 🙂


    • Thanks so much for commenting and sharing. Yes, the paradoxes in the bible are many, and it’s best to lose the details and keep the moral of the story. Why these particular parables must have been dictated by God is unbeknownst to me, but even if they were, man could have mucked them up, eh?
      Yesterday, a speaker mentioned that her children, aged 4-11 have the same questions now that she has an adult — you know, the BIG questions, and how important it is to wonder, and I was so delighted.
      Yeah, the kids might not like it after a while, and then they can stay home and sleep I guess — Who could blame them?!


  2. This is an interesting detail to know, Joey. I attended a Unitarian Fellowship for a while and if I were inclined to seek out a spiritual community again, it would be to this church.

    Regarding the other folk in your life, as they say, “It takes all kinds.” I’m glad that’s the UU’s approach, too.

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  3. hmmm…religious blog post…*wades into dangerous territory*

    First, let me say I am catholic, believing in God and Jesus, heaven and hell. Sort of…I’m not a fire and brimstone religious zealot, nor do I mock or criticize those who don’t follow my same religious values, because honestly, I too question some of my religious values at times. I’m incredibly curious about the world we live in and the beliefs we follow. I see similarities of my faith in EVERY religious faith out there today, including the “weird” ones like scientology or spaghetti monster faiths…I do NOT believe that people are doomed to hell because they don’t believe the same way I do, nor to I believe heaven is only open to those who are on their knees praying in church twice a week and two hours on Sunday.

    I’m glad you have found a happy place to explore the great “what – if” and it’s bringing you joy and peace. We as a society have lost the truer meanings of religion and faith and perverted it to be a conformist view instead of one in which we’re seeking to be a better person, do good works, and live our lives of pure honest spirit…

    I’m catholic and follow the Dali Lama on Facebook because I love reading the status messages of peace and love…tell me how that isn’t the same messages I should be preaching from believing in God/Jesus?

    To each their own….sorry for my rant

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  4. Carrie Rubin says:

    My mother and step-dad attend a Unitarian church in New England. I went to a service with them once, and it was a wonderful (and entertaining!) experience. Very accepting people. In fact, one guy there was dressed in a long flowing skirt. Nobody batted an eye. 🙂

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  5. baldjake70 says:

    I want to read a book by Thich Nhat Hanh “Living Buddha, Living Christ” very much. I am also interested in reading a book by Timber Hawkeye “Buddhist Bootcamp” after sitting on the floor of the bookstore reading different sections. The principles that the Dali Lama, Thich Nhat Hanh, and echoed again by Timber Hawkeye state that you do not have to be a Buddhist, but the fundamental ideas behind the Buddha’s teachings can be used to help you be the best YOU that you can be. I like eastern philosophies a lot more than most things. I was raised in a protestant church, but they have lost their way in how they push their ideology, in my opinion, and have lost sight of the message of Christ. Christ was all about forgiveness, compassion, not being judgmental, and helping your fellow man. Not a message that has been adopted by prominent members of society claiming to be christian.

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  6. I remember reading about a highly successful major league baseball pitcher who is some flavor of Unitarian (although, for some reason, I can’t remember his name right now). He said he’d been brought up by his Unitarian parents to believe that though and faith can literally change reality. To me, that has always sounded like saying that you can jump off the roof of a tall building and fly if you flap your arms hard enough, if you but have enough belief and faith that you can. Am I getting totally the wrong idea here? I don’t mean to be disrespectful, just to find out what’s really going on from someone who has solid personal experience with that denomination.


  7. Sherry says:

    I read living Buddha too…have a copy…I’m very open to everyone finding their way to God….figure that that is what religion is really for….the size that fits….I mean that in a general sense of Christianity versus Buddhism, Hindu, Shinto, Wiccan, etc….I’m not so forgiving when it comes to denominations within a tradition…I find fundamentalists of all religious a dangerous thing and hope someday they will be the flotsam of the ocean…I choose to practice through Catholicism, though I think the Episcopalians are a whole lot nicer and better at it…least the liberal side of it…Like the bells and whistles of Catholicism but hate a lot of the doctrine…I can’t find a liberal Catholic or Episcopal church here…sigh…

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  8. pambrittain says:

    I’m agnostic, but I’m glad people find comfort in their religion. Love that street sign.

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  9. cardamone5 says:

    As usual, you made me laugh 🙂


  10. suzjones says:

    I am a ‘collector’. At least that is what my son calls me. I take the best of what I find in all religions and faiths and live that.
    Nice post Joey. 🙂

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  11. Dan Antion says:

    People can espouse their own faith, and probably should, but I don’t think they should ever say that “your faith is wrong.” My parents were of different faiths so we kind of had the “respect for all faiths” built in.How you find your answers is your business.


  12. Deborah says:

    My favorite part about those who claim that their way is the only way and everyone else should watch out is that they forget that part about “Don’t judge, lest ye be judged.” I laugh at how conveniently that one is forgotten when they are quoting others.

    Great post! I loved it. So full of common sense!


  13. idiotwriter says:

    ..and you KNOW I enjoyed reading this … 😉 I think it IS important to teach our children the ability to ask questions about their spirituality. To look for their own truth. I am fairly sure that they learn well with small analogies… as do big children. ‘come little children’… SEEK the truth (don’t swallow everything you are fed – chew it – spit it out – ) and the truth will set you free. And so it does. 🙂


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