The Mister and I haven’t seen our children since we kissed them goodbye before school yesterday morning.
There have been no interruptions.
I know someone out there is reading this and asking WHY are you blogging when you have time alone with your husband?
People used to ask me this all the time when The Mister would return from wherever the army sent him. The expectation was that we should be all up in our togetherness. The reality is that we just wanted to get back to our norm.
For one thing, when he’d come home, he’d be exhausted. Food, shower, sex, food, sleeeeeeeep. Periodic daytime sleep for days and days.
Flying is tiring, combat zones are stressful. Weeks of training in the desert or in a southern forest are hard on a body.
Imagine coming home to a house full of children after long periods of time with only adults.
He’d bring home a certain level of adrenaline and exhaustion that only time could cure.
When he was away, I’d live like a single parent. I write that lightly, because what I did wasn’t as hard as single parenting, but it was like that.
We all had to adjust, always.
So yes, this interruption in our date weekend is brought to you by our norm. We’re definitely one of those couples that can be together 24/7 and not get sick of one another. After the military, he didn’t work for five months, so we had five months of 24/7 and we were happy. I think this might be because we know how to be together without being all up in our togetherness.
We had coffee and cookies, a night at the symphony, late dinner, cocktails, time in bed…
We’re perfectly content at the moment. I’m writing this. I don’t know what he’s doing, I’ll ask.
“Baby, what’re you doing?”
“Just scannin the Facebook.”
*nods*
Pretty typical for 1:30 Saturday afternoon.
Sometimes we rub our feet together and make the googly eyes, but we do that when our kids are here, too.
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Awwwww, how sweet! I love it!
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🙂 Thanks!
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I get the togetherness apart thing. Hub and I used to work together…and we even shared a physical office. For years we commuted together, worked together, lived together. We loved it. Even now, when he works from home, he is in the same room with me. We’ll be doin’ our own stuff, but together. I love it and I can’t imagine not having it that way.
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Aw, yeah, I agree. It IS the best! 🙂
I do not think I could work with my husband, or share an office with him. I wouldn’t like that even if he weren’t my husband. I can’t even imagine. He’s loud and managerial and apparently mean? When I meet people from his work, they’re always thinking I’m some kinda saint.
They called him El Diablo in the army lol. One time a lady I’d never even met stopped me in the commissary “Did you say your name is Mottern?” She had to tell me how mad she was that my husband was her husband’s sergeant. I just, no. I couldn’t work with him.
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People always assume Hub is mean because of his size and all the facial hair…but he’s not. The thing is, we both did the same kind of work but came from different experiences (hardware v software), so we worked really well together. And fortunately for me, I was his boss, so he wasn’t allowed to be mean to me. 🙂 Also, he’s e-scared of me, so there’s that… LOL
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HAHAHA! Oh I love that, thanks! 🙂
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wow – beautiful – enjoy every moment…
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Thanks 🙂
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I’m reminded of when my parents used to smooch and make googly eyes at each other. That’s so healthy. And so is not being all up in our togetherness. I like it when my husband is out in the garage doing his thing, and I can do my own things in the house or yard.
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Agreed 🙂
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Really it’s what makes us different that keeps us together. That’s called a happy marriage. Enjoy!😊
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Seem as though you have a pretty good system worked out. Have a Happy Saturday.
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Twas 🙂 Enjoy yours?
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Feelin vicariously happy now. So, yknow, thanks for that.
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Oh! It is my pleasure! Thank you!
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I am always happy when my husband goes out of town. “Finally, now I can watch chickflicks and I don’t have to cook,” and that last about a few hours and then I miss him and we both call each other all the time.
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Sounds like me too, Bridget. I like it, but a big part of it is because I know it’s only temporary.
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It souds like you have gotthe balance just right, Joey. Have a lovely weekend! x
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You too, Judy, thanks!
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Thank you too 🙂
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Joey, your “togetherness” with The Mister makes me smile. I love to see couples who are comfortable with each other no matter what they are doing. You two are like a worn-in, comfortable pair of jeans that fit really well.
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Well thanks. That seems right 🙂
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A very sweet post! Back from the wedding. There was a lot of sweet there, too!
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Ooh! There’s nothing like a good wedding! 🙂 Thanks.
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I think you guys definitely have this togetherness thing figured out. There are no expectations, there’s only time and what you do with it. I hope you keep on enjoying your weekend.
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Me too, you too 🙂
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Love it, especially the googly eyes part. Being able to be together 24/7 without being all on top of each other, well, in a bad way. Bwahahahaha!! Just kidding…I hope my husband and I have this talent when he eventually retires.
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I hope you do, too! The on top parts are the best, but there are biological limits 😉
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My husband and I have been doing the 24/7 thing for about 7 years now, when he started working from home full time. It works for us, except for when he strews shit around.
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I’ll agree to that. More when we were younger, less now. When we were first married, I’d be irritated with his 4389 cups a day and what’s with the socks in odd places? the paper, everywhere! Now, no. Still paper in odd places, but better. He’s always been tidier than the husband stories I hear from others.
I’m so glad it works for you, too. I bet your kids love that, too. Just knowing you’re both there. That’s niiiiice 🙂
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It’s nice when relationships mature to the point that you can be alone together.
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It’s nice when you find a person who lets you be alone together 🙂
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(vigorous head nodding)
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same ❤
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That’s the key to a good marriage. I often wonder about the couples that can’t do that.
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Same. Roommates, too.
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You two are disgustingly adorable. Reminds me of another couple who can do the 24/7 togetherness without making each other unhappy. *makes googly eyes at hub while he’s sleeping* On a side note, what is that cute plant on your coffee table? ♥♥♥
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Oh, it’s a common houseplant I picked up, I believe it’s Plastique Vert Faux of the species Artificiale, probably au Target, but it may have been Meijer or Home Goods. 😉 Cats DO NOT eat it!
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Well, it’s really freakin’ cute. I’m better with the Artificiale species and terrible with the Naturale. This would suit! Lol
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Thank you! I have another one, been not growing it for about 15 years. Found out over the winter that The Mister has watered it from time to time. LOL
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Lol! Matt had posted a video on FB about candy terrariums and I said, watch, they look real enough that someone would be stupid enough to water it and wonder why it’s getting so moldy. Ah… good stuff.
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Yessss, people would! 🙂
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Yeppers….that how it should be. Real. Love it!
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Thanks! I’ll take that as a compliment, since you’re an expert 😉
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That’s so cute and adorable 🙂 These tiny comfortable romantic gestures are more touching than candlelights 🙂
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They are, aren’t they? They’re more the stuff of life 🙂
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I think you would be a great member of a panel discussing what marriage is really all about. 🙂
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I’m glad that you got some alone togetherness 😉
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Love the couple’s shot of your feet together. Did you gussy them for the occasion or do you always have manicured tootsies?
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I always have manicured tootsies, but in the winter, I have naked toes til the weather breaks.
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