I’ve got a small suggestion.
It’s one I practice myself.
KNOW YOUR AUDIENCE.
I had a neighbor who was a sincere bigot. Since she complained to me about how the African-American culture “had done took over Febberary.” and how “them Mexicans was takin over the country,” and how “icky” she found the idea that my father and his partner were coming to visit, I did not ask her how she felt about Sassy’s crush on the biracial boy, or if she enjoyed pressing one for English…
I never agreed with her opinions, and initially, I tried to enlighten her ignorant ass, but ultimately, I couldn’t change the way she felt about any of it, so I had to agree to disagree and leave it at that.
Tolerance isn’t just prescribed for bigots, but also applies to those who must be tolerant of the intolerant.
When you’re talkin to an old white woman from The Deep South, maybe you stick to conversation about her cornbread fryin techniques.
When you’re talkin to a old bearded fella from the country, maybe you ask him about his musket collection.
I do not agree with the statements made by the celebrities I’m alluding to, nor do I or did I watch their shows, but I do think too much is made over the bigoted opinions of a few minor celebrities.
Granted, I’d rather be pleasantly surprised by people who transcend their stereotypes, but I’m a realist.
Maybe it’s a writer thing: I just think it’s good to know your audience.