Motives are easy for me to determine.
I was a Why Child. I’m a Why Adult.
And if you’re into it, I’m INFJ and spooky empathic so I know stuff.
Most people are operating from ego, but they don’t admit that, usually not even to themselves. Pride is always fuckin with them and they generally haven’t read a suitable amount of Greek tragedies. Vanity sometimes gets in their way, which they attribute to the jealousy of others. Jealousy is real and is, of course, a powerful motivator as well. Jealousy is a form of fear.
So is anger. Base, but an effective motivator.
Ultimately, power is the only true motivator. Oh, we classify the power, give names to its form — money, sex, glory — but it’s all a power-seeking operation. Wanna feel safe, satisfied, understood, desired, worthy.
Some people are heavily into power and they know it, aren’t ashamed of it, and they despise anyone who is almost as much as people who have more than they do.
We’re at our best when we’re motivated by love.
But love in what sense? The absence of fear? The grace of God? The agape of humanity? The goodness of our hearts?
Doesn’t really matter.
What matters is what we do.
Most importantly, how what we do affects PEOPLE. Including ourselves.
I propose to you that even if our motives are getting rid of old sweaters, freeing up garage space, receiving a tax deduction, trading our blood for money — no matter how stupid, shallow, or selfish our motives — it doesn’t matter because it’s still GOOD. If you do all the good things for all the wrong reasons, you don’t get all the good feelings, but you do still get what you wanted, and that feels good, too.
Giving and helping makes us feel good, and that’s an ulterior motive that people don’t much like to talk about but it’s there, no different than any feel-good thing. You can watch people destroy themselves out of the goodness of their hearts, with all their best intentions on full display. You can watch them fall apart, question their faith, wondering why all the rights and goods didn’t work.
Not a fan of give until it hurts. Much more give until it starts to feel uncomfortable. Then stop and think about your motivation.
Good things with bad intentions — Bad things with good intentions — Value is relative
Be good to yourself.
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