Me on Leadership: I lead only when I have to.

Then I begrudge the incompetence of others and resent being forced to leave my comfort zone.

I don’t like to lead. I don’t like to follow. I prefer to march to the beat of my own drum.

I will understand you, support you, encourage you, inspire you, and even help you (if I like you enough) but if you like me enough, you won’t ask me to lead.

Unless you’re this big:


If you’re that big, I’ll lead as necessary, no problem.

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What are your thoughts and feelings on leadership?

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37 Responses to Leadership

  1. I agree. I’ve been put into leadership positions over the years, and I usually end up resentful, for one reason or another. Not worth the hassle, sometimes. The family is, of course, an altogether different story. Love that picture ! 💖

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  2. Jewels says:

    I prefer to march to the beat of my own drum too, but don’t mind leading or following, depending on the circumstances.
    Cute photo! ❤

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  3. April says:

    I’m right there with you on this one.

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  4. I will lead in certain circumstances. It always depends on the situation and the people. It it is an area I feel comfortable and knowledgeable I usually end up leading.

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  5. Judy Martin says:

    I prefer not to lead either, nor do I like to follow, Like you Joey, I just like to do my own thing! I know what needs to e done and I will make sure that I do it! 🙂

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  6. Benson says:

    You can always lead while following your own drum;but then it becomes their drum too. Which ain’t always a bad thing. Love the picture. I think the little one has your eyes and nose.

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  7. I prefer to think of myself as the puppet master. But then I get all the strings tangled.

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  8. jan says:

    Whenever I’ve been put in a leadership role I try to reinforce the “team” idea. Sometimes it works – depends on the people I’m trying to lead! But it’s not my preferred role by a long shot.

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  9. baldjake70 says:

    I prefer to lead. If I must follow, then I prefer it be behind someone who is competent. There is nothing worse than having to follow someone that is incompetent.

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  10. Dan Antion says:

    Accepting leadership roles often leads to proof of the old adage “no good deed goes unpunished”

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  11. Anxious Mom says:

    What a sweet picture.

    I hate leading people. I was very, very good at it during the times I did so, though, to the point that my husband wants me to run for political office. (Also surprisingly good at speeches and shit.) But you couldn’t pay me enough. Like you, I’m content with leading my little family, and some days not even that 😉

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  12. Norm 2.0 says:

    What Jake said: There’s nothing more painful than being forced to follow someone who has no clue where the hell they’re going.
    I’ve been in leadership roles professionally speaking for almost 20 years now. I love it. It feels wonderful when the team comes together and accomplishes a difficult task or solves a major problem.
    Like anything else, you get better at it with practice. I’ve learned to solicit positive solution oriented input from others, and I don’t tolerate those who whine and bitch if they don’t also have a solution. What’s very important is the ability to admit and learn from your mistakes, otherwise no one will follow.
    And if you think or act like you never make mistakes, then you’re not cut out for leadership.

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    • joey says:

      You sound like a great leader, Norm. 😀

      Whenever I’m involved in group tasks, there are always those people who dismiss everyone’s idea but have none of their own. I don’t deal well with that, lol.

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  13. Luanne says:

    Seriously, are you me? I feel exactly that way. I don’t like being a leader (or a boss), but I can’t stand being a follower. Is that what us bloggers are–independent ;)?

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  14. Deb says:

    I am never a good leader…ever. Patience is just not my thing. I can be an awesome follower to a good leader,but like you, I prefer the independent route. Beautiful picture.

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  15. Having worked in the non-profit sector, I’ve spent far too many hours (usually forced) at workshops, conferences, and task forces, where “leadership” was either defined by some expert or debated by participants (when they weren’t debating the meaning of terms like ‘collaboration’) that the term doesn’t have an immediate negative reflex in my mind. I tended to get the label “doesn’t play well with others” in part because I would (unprofessionally) point out when someone said they wanted to lead, but then fail to do so, or say they were willing to follow, only then to turn around and try to micromanage from behind. Or worse yet was when people said they wanted to collaborate as equals (which is a great thing), but then spend the rest of the time trying to undermine others and push their way to the front.

    I’ll end my rant with saying that keys to being a great leader is well-documented out there, whether it is leading in the workplace, the public arena, or interpersonal relationships. We are not really taught how to be good leaders growing up, and yet people still try to wing it. Humility is a cornerstone of a good leader. What also needs to be recognized, in my humble opinion, is acknowledgment of “followership.” It is a symbiotic relationship….must end rant now…..take chill pill…arrghhh

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    • joey says:

      Gosh, you should’ve participated and written your own post about leadership! You sound like you have a lot of experience!
      I really do not like undermining and overbearing behavior, but micromanaging is the worst! How can anyone collaborate when there’s no trust?!?
      Humility is totally underrated overall, a leader without it is just a tyrant.
      You bring up a lot of great points. Thank you for your comment. 🙂

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  16. I did my years of leadership. Now that I am retired, I don’t lead anything because guess what folks, I did plenty of it, did it well, and was paid well for it. Now, you want me to do it for free. No thanks, I’ll follow along, and if I don’t like how it is going I will move along but I promise, I won’t complain. I also won’t give speeches on any topic. A big no thanks. 🙂

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  17. reocochran says:

    Oh oh, lost my comment from yesterday. Weird but anyway, your photo of your children is adorable, beautiful and treasurable! ♡♡♡♡ Four individuals who know who theur Mom is and love her the way she is.
    I totally understand lacking the energy to “lead” fully grown adults, at least I feel this way at times. I think you are empathetic to those you care about and I appreciate the way you read and really listen to my writing, Joey.


  18. I’m a natural leader. I often take on or are given mentorship roles at work. I reject management though because although I like leading I also like the freedom that comes without taking on the responsibility of the success of others.

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